While trying to buy Nasi lemak

peace .. and salam ,,,

this writing is all about proximity ... or specifically "how near are you to another person or a stranger" ...

while at the Wednesday "pasar malam", while was trying to buy a nasi lemak, while was i was standing in some uncomfortable position ... trying as hard as i can to convince the saleswoman to pass me my packacge of that tasty-yummy-hot-sweet-stuff ... the saleswoman didnt want to entertain me at all ... (dont ask why but may be racist as she was and say the color of my skin! .. Oh God ... maybe and maybe not ... ) anyway .. she refuses to look but i kept saying "tiga biasa" ... ok ok .. i was gonna share it anyway ... i wasnt gonna eat all 3 ...

but the issue didn't end there ... there were about 3 people as well who came after me (guess it was the beginning of the number 3 curse) ... and they all got what they wanted ...

at that point i really felt heated ... sweating already as usual ... in the middle of a place where u'r the only "coloured" man to be purchasing some food which presumably made for only-and-only specific type of people (as many think) ...

to make things worse, where the topic of the day "proximity" shines ...

there were two girls behind me.. they kept moving and moving slowly until we were shoulder to shoulder ... then half of her body was within centimeters of mine (infronnt of me) ...

at that point i thought i ain't moving because she aint blind ... im not that small you know (for people who never saw me) ... and then tension was high ...

until it reached a moment that she was 100% infront of me ...

now damn!!!

what the hell is going on??? in my mind i said ...

and guess what? .. she ordered and had her food done ...

helooooooo .. there is a moron waiting here ... oh saleswoman ...

but wait! .. didnt i just said she was infront of me ... i mean really really infront as if there was not any kind of ethics that denies her to be that close (forget religion, and the hadhari thingy)... even if i was her husband i wont bring her that close to me while buying ... oh' man ... those positions are reserved for husband and wife (simple and plain as that)


where is the logic here??

i guess the nasi lemak may sometimes be more expensive than dignity (coz to me she was making herself quite ignorant of the fact that she is an adult aint no child anymore... sister ...)

that was soooo annoying ... you are infront of two ladies who cant behave right ... the saleswoman and the so-called-supposed-to-be sister from an Islamic background ...

i mean u can come close in some cultures ... but there is always a limit ... being "inside" is not as being "close" ... and pushing yourself like that isnt acceptable


and hey! .. guess what "even more" ...

i left without buying ...


yah yah ... i might be a moron ...

but that situation ended with me saying a rude "excuse me" to the soooo-innocent-not-knowing-her-proximity-limits girl ...

and they tell you that people are "thinking" these days ... i bet she doesnt even understand still why i left off like that ...


in conclusion i really hope girls know how much can they be close .. specially when they are in front and a man (a stranger and a black man) is in the back ... its not about feminism or sexism ... its about common sense and attitude ...


peace walslam