Salam and peace to all ...
A tiring week it has been ... really tiring ... and it shouldn't be ending ...
anyway .. have learned alot from some Problem solving and algorithms ... its quite interesting to let your brain work ... and i'v found out that we rarely think about a problem ,,, so now im getting the idea of how to look at games and puzzles - at least using different point-of-views ...
as well ... the long awaited ummatic week has been canceled or postponed ( not sure which) , and our Fasting month is coming ... now i really don't know how to arrange time for this special month ... its either eat better food at home or pray at our grand mosque ... we'll figure that out ...
Today .. Sinar (not sure of full name) , the newspaper is out ... a very interesting idea .. its a newspaper that takes care of the capital Kuala Lumpur and Selangor province ... sure will be reading that , as its more focused ... on places at least i heard of ... not like when you present me with problems at JB or other states ...
Now lets head for abit of discussion ...
its about life ... people and feelings ...
Sometimes we find ourselves surrounded by people ... we knew for a long time ... but suddenly we feel we never knew them ... probably they are trying to tell ... "I have known you for something ... i wanted .. and now i got it ..so scram!!!!!" ...
Well this is what i feel at least ... judge me of being over-sensitive for caring about this ... but im wondering ..and it really disturbs me ... of how they think .. i mean ... what goes into their mind after they do this ... ???? do they just forget and restart another session???? ... sometime you just feel all people around are up to something ... they need something ...
like in the past few weeks , i got some sms's and calls from people not remembered for a long time ... then to discover after sometime that they wanted help in something else ...
now please ... that disgusting ....
now lets move away from personal thoughts and feelings ... lets move towards a different topic .. a topic touched in previous posts ... "Criticism" ...
We have that : everyone is accountable, no one is beyond criticism ... furthermore, the freedom to criticize should not be used as a mean of degrading people or tarnishing their image, or just as a mean to hurt other's feelings ... but at the end it depends on how much you know the person in most cases ...
There are some conditions that must be met in order to ensure the validity of a given criticism ...
(1) - It is necessary to establish the facts an ascertain the grounds on which criticism is based.
So if someone comes to you with some news, make sure its correct. It should no be based
on assumptions or false ideas.
(2) - The critic should criticize based on the truth. so he shouldn't criticize based on something
he is not sure of. And if he was to know that mistake then its under lying or worse
hypocrisy.
(3) - The criticsm must suit the occasion, it must be courteous and effective.
We must always remember that Nasihah (advice) was never forcing, if you have something that you think is true, it doesn't really have to be the same with the other .... maybe the other is aware of the wrong-doing ... but waiting for the time to change (forgetting that death is an unknown variable) ... so here comes the art of discussion ... something we need to practice ourselves for and with ... for discussions and with discussions ...
Well seems like im giving some advice ... but while im writing this, i always think of myself ... and remember my friends statement "we must advice ourselves first" ... "so this is just a reminder , in case we forgot" ... (famously said by UmmahFilms director and creator)
walslam (peace)
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